Chesed shebbe gevurah
This combination of middos connotes the gentle persuasion of discipline towards those whom we love Correction from a place of love does not appear to be stern; yet, at least, firm enough to make the point clear. The motivating factor is compassion, sometimes expressed in a manner akin to the phrase, “tough love,” or some variation thereof.
If we truly love another person, then we are cautious in any attempt to rebuke; this should be done so only for the sake of that person’s benefit. In consideration of the path that HaShem desires us to walk upon, we should instill those values in others. And, the end result should be from a place of love, from the one who institutes the admonition. Additionally, we are to humbly receive admonition from the One Who would only like the best for us.
Where do I fall short in my life? How can I be an example for others through discipline, tempered by loving-kindness?
The Tree of Life 