Jacob was a quiet man who lived in tents. Esau was a man of the wilderness; he sought out adventures. Specifically, Jacob is described as an ish tam, a simple, pure or wholesome man. Ish means man, tam is also described as upright. Because he lived in tents, Rashi infers that Jacob was a man with a contemplative nature. Esau was more of an extrovert, focused on worldly gain. Jacob’s character was worthy of qualifying him to be the heir who set the foundation of values for the Jewish people. His focus on uprightness and devotion to G-d set the tone for character and emphasis we should place upon ourselves toward G-d and man.
Although he deceived Esau, to receive the birthright, he was not comfortable about that, and later sought reconciliation. This week’s parasha opens with the potential for a conflict between Esau and Jacob. As background, Jacob had served Laban for twenty years, seven years originally for Rachel, although Laban fooled him into serving for Leah. Then, another seven years for Rachel, his preferred bride. He served and additional six years in order to acquire flocks of his own. He was a hard honest worker, who worked tirelessly for Laban, until he acquired so many flocks that it was time for him to go his own way.
He sends messengers (some say angels) ahead to Esau to let him know of his approach; yet, he receives word that Esau is on his way with 400 men of war. Jacob sends gifts ahead of him to appease Esau for his wrath over having the birthright stolen from him. Eventually, as he approached Esau, he bows down seven times before him, as he continues to walk toward him. Esau runs to him and embraces him. This appeasement of Esau on the part of Jacob serves as a model for the Jewish people in diplomacy.
Additionally, Jacob’s approach exemplifies the power of prayer over the sword, for he prayed to G-d for deliverance from his brother Esau, instead of going straight into battle with him. This should always be the first line of defense for the Jewish people. Also, in our own lives as individuals facing various challenges that constitute our struggles, we should seek assistance from G-d. We need to rely on HaShem to grant us success in all of our endeavors.
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