mindfulness – The Tree of Life

Omer: Day 24 – Balancing Challenges

Tiferes shebbe Netzach: Beauty within Endurance

Tiferes represents the ability to blend or harmonize opposites; thus, the strong-willed efforts to endure challenges in life, may require tenacity; yet, a measure of compassion for ourselves and others also plays a role. Endurance in regard to forbearance of others, is supported by compassion, mercy, and leniency towards others. Also, we would benefit from some show of compassion to ourselves, especially when our best efforts do not immediately amount to success. By acknowledging our mis-tries as stepping-stones, we can learn how to do better next time; this requires a certain amount of self-compassion, lest we judge ourselves too harshly for our failures.

The tenacity to endure the nisyanos (challenges) of our lives, especially when we are running low on reserves, may benefit from acknowledging that we are not superhumans; rather, we are beings built to be dependent on the earth, our fellow human beings, and G-d Himself. When we reach the point of exasperation, when we find ourselves barely able to cope, then we may note a sense of powerlessness. This is exactly when we should turn towards others for help; and, primarily, to accept that the only One who may be able to effect a situation from Above for the good, is the One who created the situation in the first place.

G-d has a divine plan for every individual; when we begin to see the challenges in our lives as tests that will bring us to the next level of spiritual improvement, then we may be in harmony with our circumstances, others, and G-d’s blueprint for our lives.

Omer: Day 19 – A Sure Peace

Hod shebbe Tiferes: Humility within Harmony

Humility can serve to temper a false sense of harmony within, by compelling a soul to recognize that any sense of inner peace is often fragile, especially if that peace is not drawn from a higher source. Are we willing to admit to ourselves, that we are dependent on many circumstances, needs, and expectations to maintain a sense of peace? To think otherwise may be an overestimation of one’s own ability to secure sure peace of mind.

Yet, if we would like to be able to transcend our dependence on the requirements that we set for ourselves, in order to bring us a peace that may actually be a fragile peace, then, through recognition of our limitations, we may humble ourselves before G-d, in acknowledgment of the everlasting peace that can be provided only through Him. “The L-RD will bless His people with peace” (Psalm 29:11, JPS 1917 Tanach).

If we choose to follow the ways of HaShem through mitzvot, prayer, study, we will receive the blessings from Above that bring restoration to our lives and a lasting inner peace.

Omer Count Day 8

Chesed shebbe gevurah

This combination of middos connotes the gentle persuasion of discipline towards those whom we love Correction from a place of love does not appear to be stern; yet, at least, firm enough to make the point clear. The motivating factor is compassion, sometimes expressed in a manner akin to the phrase, “tough love,” or some variation thereof.

If we truly love another person, then we are cautious in any attempt to rebuke; this should be done so only for the sake of that person’s benefit. In consideration of the path that HaShem desires us to walk upon, we should instill those values in others. And, the end result should be from a place of love, from the one who institutes the admonition. Additionally, we are to humbly receive admonition from the One Who would only like the best for us.

Where do I fall short in my life? How can I be an example for others through discipline, tempered by loving-kindness?

The Mindful Moment

What prevents you from experiencing each moment of your life more fully? Consider that every moment has the potential to reveal a rich connection to ourselves, beyond what we perform by default in a rote manner. By rote, I mean any activity performed unthinkingly, on automatic, without giving deliberate attention to that activity. For instance, I noticed that I often rush through a beracha over food, skipping the first part, wherein HaShem is acknowledged, and going right to the individual ending such as borei pri haEtz or borei pri haAdamah. Why? It is because of what I refer to as “background anxiety.” This is the kind of anxiety that remains, for the most part, unnoticed. Otherwise, it is part and parcel of being caught up in the momentum of a hectic pace.

What is necessary, from a psychological standpoint is to shift from the automatic mind to the conscious mind. These two modes of thinking depict the difference between running on automatic, in reaction mode to responding to the moments we encounter in life, without letting our emotions rule. This is important, to have an awareness of what state of mind we are in, and once we become aware of moving unthinkingly through a task or moment in time, to interrupt the reactive brain and shift into a more conscious and mindful state of mind. This can be done as simply as pausing, taking a deep breath, and slowing down, to focus more in the moment.

Mesillas Yesharim (Path of the Just) teaches that awareness is a necessary component of spiritual growth. Everything starts with awareness and conscious choice. We do not want to live mindless lives. Yet, the more aware I become of my ways, the more I realize that I often do not move through life in a deliberate, conscious way. Rather, I speak without thinking, repeat talking points without evaluating them, and react emotionally, without restraint. Changing habitual patterns of behavior is challenging; yet, it is possible, with continual effort. So, stop, pause, and reflect enough to focus on your inner state, while tuning out any distractions. Incorporate this practice into your life for the best results.

Tu b’Shevat 5784

Tu b’Shevat: a mini Guide

“It is a good custom for the faithful to eat many fruits on this day and to celebrate them with words of praise.” – from Pri Etz Hadar ch. 1, sefaria.org

Baruch atah H’Shem Elokeinu melech haOlam borei pri haEtz

(Blessed are you, L-rd our G-d, who creates the fruit of the tree).

Baruch atah H’Shem Elokeinu melech haOlam shehechiyanu, v’kiemanu, v’higianu lazman hazeh

(Blessed are you, L-rd our G-d, who has granted us life, sustained us, and brought us to this season).

The concept of enacting a tikkun (rectification) through the conscious eating of a variety of fruits on this day is exemplified within the teachings found in the Pri Etz Hadar – Tree of the Goodly Fruit – that serves as a type of manual for Tu b’Shevat. To eat with intention (kavannah), means to acknowledge the spiritual significance of the day, as well as the symbolism from different types of fruits. Especially important are the seven species from Israel mentioned in Torah:

“A land of wheat and barley, and [grape] vines and fig-trees and pomegranates; a land of olive-trees and honey. – Deuteronomy 8:8, JPS 1917 Tanach

Also included as traditional favorites for Tu b’Shevat are the following:

carob chips, dried apples, dried pears, raisins, grapes, and wine, if having a Tu b’Shevat fruit seder.

Habitual Patterns, Eternal endeavors

Moving Past the Comfort Zone, One Step at a Time

The one who makes the extra effort to improve himself, by going beyond his or her established norm is doing well. In order to break a habit or move past one’s “comfort zone,” that first step is required. For example, in regard to breaking a habit, in the moment, one must change his mind, about continuing with whatever his compulsory drive is about to compel him to do.

In the case of moving out of one’s comfort zone, it is important to go the extra mile. So, to move forward, instead of settling for less than one’s potential is admirable. This effort is necessary, in order to serve God, according to our derech (path), for, we should not remain complacent (Likutei Amarim, end of chapter 15).

Taking that extra step towards freedom from the clutches of a negative habit, or compelling oneself to do even better in regard to a positive routine is what will bring us closer to the ideal person that we envision for ourselves.

In order to change the trajectory of a negative inclination, that if followed, would have only kept us in negativity, one must believe it is possible to succeed. Spiritual growth is not any different, theoretically, than efforts at discipline in regard to an exercise routine for the body. One more push up, every once in a while or an extra sit-up or two, proves to ourself that we have the potential to do more, if we set our minds to it.

This can also be understood in the realm of character development. For example, we may contribute to the benefit and welfare of others in some particular manner, such as giving a quarter to the nice lady on the corner, everyday, as we walk to the coffeeshop; yet, what about, stopping and saying “hi,” or simply, “G-d bless you.” These little extras add to the mitzvah. This same understanding of increasing the quality of good deed can be applied to other mitzvoth as well.

I am not talking about pushing oneself, as if one is not doing enough already; rather, to grow in a steady manner, as we see feasible for ourselves, and are inspired to do so. It is not necessarily about reaching the next level or rung on the ladder; rather, about meeting the moment with the effort that will prove our ability to pass a test with flying colors, like a ship returning from the battle.

Our battle is between our lesser inclination to remain static, and our higher inclination to improve ourselves, one embellishment at a time, beautifying the mitzvoth (good deeds) of our lives. For myself , I am learning how to focus more on the present moment rather than the incessant struggle to achieve for myself greater and greater spiritual status in my own eyes. So, it appears to be more about the journey, than the destination. These efforts will be granted a reward both in this life and Olam Haba (the World-to-Come).

When the Ordinary is Extraordinary

Standing upon Holy Ground: recognizing the importance of the ordinary

When Moses stood in front of the burning bush, G-d told him to take off his shoes, for he was standing upon “holy ground” (Exodus 3:5). How can this phenomenon be construed as relevant to our own lives? When we enter a place of worship, the local synagogue where we pray, for example, there is more of a feeling of being in the presence of G-d, because of the sanctity of the space. Yet, what about within the framework of our lives? Where does the sacred appear, when we are aware enough to notice it in front of our very eyes, in the experience of the moment?

The truth of the matter is that it’s taught that we need only recognize the sacredness of the very ground that we are standing upon (R’ Hirsch), metaphorically speaking, at any given point in time. In other words, we need to connect with the experience at hand, and understand how even the mundane moments of our lives have a purpose in G-d’s plan. The connection between ordinary moments and our purpose in life is key.

Whatever ground we stand upon in our lives, is where we will prosper most. If we set our sights on lofty endeavors beyond our reach at that particular point in time, instead of attempting to understand what is set before us in the here and now, then we will miss out on the concealed meaning of that moment. Our minds will be elsewhere, preoccupied with other thoughts.

Realizing the potential of ordinary moments depends on our perception. The meaning of the ordinary in our lives can be revealed, if we are perceptive enough to see behind the veil of the mundane. Even the ordinary is imbued with meaning in the moment.

The attention of Moses was drawn to the burning bush, that was not consumed by fire. He saw beyond the ordinary appearance of a bush in the wilderness and was receptive for an encounter with H’Shem. Connecting to the divine in our lives happens when we are open to the moment.

Perceive the Blessings

motzei Shabbos: parasha Re’eh 5783 – Perceive the Blessings

“Behold, I set before you this day a blessing and a curse.”

– Deuteronomy 11:26, JPS 1917 Tanach

“See, I set before you this day,” in other words, perceive that I present before you this very day, the significance of blessings and curses in your lives. According to Rabbeinu Bahya, the so-called, “mental eye” of the spiritually sensitive is able to see the effects of the blessings and curses, on an individual basis, in their own lives. Incidentally, the blessings originate with the Attribute of Mercy, whereas the curses are derived from the Attribute of Justice.

R. Bahya makes reference to the pasuk (verse), “I have seen great wisdom and knowledge” (Ecclesiastes 1:16). As a direct result of our being aware of the blessings and curses in life, we may obtain great knowledge, concerning the causal relationship between our thoughts, speech, & actions, and their consequences. This may lead towards wisdom, having to do with how H’Shem Elokim guides us – each and every person, according to hasgachah peratis (divine guidance), weaving a tapestry of events and consequences in our lives, dependent upon the nature of our conduct.

Additionally, consider the words of King David, who wrote, “Thy rod and Thy staff, they comfort me” (Psalm 23:4, JPS); he was assured through H’Shem’s guidance and correction, that he would remain on the derech (path). H’Shem’s guidance, as represented by a staff (a shepherd’s crook) and His correction, as symbolized by a rod. This is akin to the understanding that blessings can be understood as signs that we are on the right path; and curses are a form of chastisement meant to correct us, whenever we go astray.

Tu b’Shevat 5782